How to Manage Your Life After Divorce

After a break up with your long-term partner and the legalities have been dealt with, now is the time to get used to this chapter of your life. No doubt you will have several emotions swirling around in your head. Know that’s normal.

You may think of your separation as a failure, but remember that there are two sides to every coin. The decision to separate was for a reason and you will need to work through your feelings and learn coping strategies. The one thing that most people learn when a separation has occurred is that mutual friends will take sides, even if the separation was amicable and needed to happen. Don’t take offence, just be civil if your run into someone who doesn’t talk to you much post-separation. Speaking of acquaintances, you will probably notice that a lot of people will opinions about how they saw your relationship and how you should move forward. All of a sudden, folks are marriage counsellors and lawyers. These people will tell you what to do and tell you how to be single without the understanding that perhaps you didn’t want to the separation. It’s best not to engage with these people because you’re dealing with your own emotions.

An added layer to your new life could be you have had to change where you live. Changing your address, setting up a new place and even the routine of driving to a new residence will play on your mind. Add it to the list of getting used to your new life. You may think that you will be lonely but remember that being alone doesn’t have to have the thoughts of being lonely. This might be the opportunity to make your space yours. Set it up your way, watch what you want and listen to your favourite music. This could be the time to rediscover yourself.

You may have initiated the separation and feel guilty about it. Yes, lives have changed because of your decision but you had your reasons and need to know that making things right will have its rewards for all those involved in the long term. Your life has changed and it was probably for the better although you can’t see it now. You will see the improvement you were looking for and you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. The feelings of remorse are normal.

Once a separation has been agreed upon, the legalities need to take place. The lawyers and staff at Grant Lee Law will help you with those matters so that you can navigate your new life. If find you need help emotionally, speak to your doctor. They will put you in touch with someone that will help you succeed through this challenging time. With the help of a therapist and the team at Grant Lee Law, you will navigate your new life in a way you can be proud of.

Grant-Lee Law will take care of the legalities within your financial means. However, you need to take care of yourself.  Reach out to the team online at www.grantleelaw.ca or give them a call at (905) 315-6837.